I think my words might have come off the wrong way too. I stand by my assertion that “society” doesn’t care. “Society” is a meat grinder that exploits people. But that’s a different topic.
However, I did not mean that helping others is worthless. Good for you for helping your local scouts, etc. People (mainly those you help and those in close proximity to them) will absolutely care about and appreciate what you do. I’m all for helping people, and I follow through with that in my own life as well. I’m not sure where you think I make excuses to not help other people, because that is not accurate. I help people because I want to, though. Not because I feel some obligation to be productive or contribute to society.
You criticize those who follow their own whims and say that they are doing nothing of worth. I think people who follow their own whims are the ones living life to the fullest. This is purely a difference in philosophy, I’m not trying to convince you that I’m right, only that you should be aware of viewpoints other than your own.
Travelling certainly isn’t for everybody, and parents should prioritize raising their children, I agree. I still think that for some parents and children, travelling around is a better choice than staying put. Some of the people I admire most had “nomadic” childhoods and liked it just fine. Quite often they even credit the wide experiences they had travelling around as catalysts for the way they turned out as an adult. Yes, there are difficulties, no choice is perfect.
I wonder, if in the case of your cousin, it had more to do with being forced to move on the Air Force’s schedule. Whether the part he hated was really the lack of freedom, more than the lack of stability. I grew up in the exact opposite situation. My entire life on one piece of land, in one small town, with one group of friends and one school. I hated that. It’s easy to find anecdotal evidence either way, that doesn’t really prove anything.
Lastly, I definitely don’t condone being a leach off of society. Whatever you choose to do and however you live your life, you are responsible for providing for it yourself. In the case of children, you are responsible for them as well.